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The Joy of Oven Cleaning

Happy Sunday All,

So there I was… my head in the cavernous, dark recess, whilst my knees chafed against the cold of the vinyl flooring. I was oven cleaning.

Oven cleaning is one of those jobs that we all detest.

As I jiggled and shuffled and ‘humphed’ and ‘hawed’ with tremendous effort, it occurred to me that oven cleaning could easily be used as and analogy for the emotional clearing that we all need to do from time to time.

A good M.O.T

oldtimer-146524_1280Every so often it’s a good idea to look at your emotional state and give it a good old overhaul. By doing so, you open yourself up to deeper self- development and access greater creativity and understanding. In addition you’re ‘clearing out the trash’ of your inner world, so you’re lighter and freer. You see others’ actions and situations more clearly and with deeper insight and you also take a step or two (or several) towards understanding your purpose, the people in your life and the lessons they’re here to teach you.

Emotion=Action=State=Reality

Our emotional state dictates the type of action(s) we take and they in turn have consequences that form the reality we create.

So doing a bit of oven cleaning and peeling back the dank, sticky layers can only serve you.

However…

Oven cleaning is a messy, messy job!

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  1. Your stomach churns as you encounter the globules of hard to reach grease and grime, you know you should really have gotten to earlier. In my analogy, this represents the ‘stuff’ you get stuck in. It’s the stuff in the dark recesses that you can’t see, the patterns lodged in the subconscious and created in our formative years that you repeat.

This is the stuff mirrored in the people you meet who have the same or similar qualities, the situations that have you thinking  ‘I’ve been here before.’ The key here isn’t to figure out why they keep showing up, or why you are dealing with similar situations or personality types – the key learning is:

“How will I choose to react this time?”

Once the (re)action changes, so does the result and so then the reality you find yourself in.fantasy-1275253_1280

  1. Is the stuff that is molten and drips down the walls…Urrrgh! This stuff is more visible and closer to the surface. It’s the stuff that though visible is perhaps ‘ickier’ as it’s sticky and keeps dripping. You have to use lots of soapy water time and time again to get rid of it to reveal the shining vitreous enamel beneath.

This sticky stuff feels as though you can’t get away from it. There’s lots of dry heaving as this stuff makes you sick to your stomach. This particular aspect of oven cleaning needs lots of ‘elbow grease’ to get rid of it!

Maybe it’s the treatment you receive from a family member or work colleague. Someone you’re tied to in some way and have to live, work or communicate with.

Out of fear or duty you put up with their challenging or rude; jealous or insecure behaviours, and don’t defend your right to your own thoughts actions or deeds. You do what they NEED you to do and keep the peace.

but…

you also feel that twinge inside that lets you know you betrayed who you really are by doing so…

The other person is appeased, triumphant even,

but…

You feel coated in the slime, uncomfortable and sticky – YOU were inauthentic! You failed to defend who you truly are and as a result another (perhaps only tiny) piece of you died…

but…

At least you didn’t rock the boat eh?

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  1. Then there’s the really hard-baked, albeit smaller burnt on bits that cling to the undersides of the wire racks. They’re really caked on, bits of stuff that have dripped off and baked on the underside.Though baked and seemingly a challenge to shift they’re relatively easy to remove, the trick with this aspect of oven cleaning is to be quick and sharp in your movements.

These are perhaps the more everyday emotional slights we receive. They’re there, but surface only really. We do have to be mindful we’re not too sharp with the chipping off though, as we could slip and cut ourselves damaging relationships that we need to maintain in the present.

(No doubt you now think I’m a rather disgusting householder if my oven needs this much attention? I assure you I DID exaggerate somewhat!)

Gratitude, Gratitude & Pure love

Love-in-such-a-wayBy examining what a specific person’s role or behaviour has provided for you to learn, you can uncover the meaning of these relationships. When you discover the meaning you learn to understand their importance in your spiritual & emotional evolution.

Once you’re able to recognise the part they have played in your emotional development, you can get on with the job of being grateful for the service they have performed, shifting the emotional debris that can coat our psyches and emotions and stop us from evolving.

Being grateful for the lessons we’ve learned and acknowledging that they gave you a gift is a wonderful clue to the fact that we have shifted any emotional ties. Once in gratitude we open our hearts up to pure love.

Evolution & Change

There is no evolution without change, so if you’re wanting to understand your emotional and spiritual evolution, then be sure to undertake regular oven cleaning…

The kitchen smells fresher, your bread bakes better and

boy does it taste delicious!

Blissings & Much Love

Insightful Angel

 

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For those who may be struggling with their truth

Sad-FaceToday…

Today I am sad and miserable and blue

Today I am hurt and don’t know what to do

Today I grieve, I lost my greatest hero

Today I’m lost, I’m weary and low.

Today, I have no idea who I am

Today I am shaking, a soon-slaughtered lamb

I don’t know why I’m here, nor how I should be

I want to free myself

from always trying to be…

The best, the perfect, version of me

And…

Though I know, I’ll swell like a blimp, I wanna eat biscuits and bread and chips and Ice-cream and stuff it ALL down, coz you see feelings like these are alien to me.

I don’t know what to do, to express and let go I just don’t now how and it’s killing me slow

Today I want to be open and real and raw and wide and honest and open and true

Today… Can I give myself permission to spew

My a.u.t.h.e.n.t.i.c.i.t.y?

The hurt and regret for the Me, still unknown

The me wringing hands, confused and undone,

for the life I still seek, for the seeds not yet sown?

Will I have time?

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Today I wonder; When will it feel right?

But surely by now I shouldn’t be so uptight?

Today I wonder why, who, when, what, where and how?

Do I truly have the power to manifest the glory I vowed?

And

Though I know the theory and I feel it in my bones…

We are pure essence, pure beauty, pure connection, pure love,

It’s just out of reach, out of sync

So Remote…

Today I don’t want pity or sympathy or comfort or speech

Today, just for one day

I just want to be free

Of every expectation I’ve ever placed on me.

I want to sit by a lake in my fear and be soothed, open up to the breeze and admit

I don’t KNOW!

For today, I want to love me, snuggle up to myself & find the key…

Unlock the door to MY my talents, my gifts, my inner, my peace

the me I am waiting…

No, yearning to see

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And today

just for one day

This is ME…

This is the best, the very best I can be…

And Today

(perhaps just for today)

This…

is A-OK

Blissings & Much Love

Insightful Angel

 

 

 

 

 

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Gratitude & Bingo!

Pissouri – Cyprus

8th October 2015

22.32pm (local time)

Thursday

Happy Sunday All

Fear & Intuition

face-636095_1280Today I had the biggest and most profound lesson of my whole time in Cyprus thus far. I’ve had the strongest intuitive feeling, since coming away that something would happen. It manifest as the fear I mentioned in my previous post. I seemed to spend much of my time feeling as thought I needed to look over my shoulder.

Since then I convinced myself I’d be more positive and to see this time as a gift. A sort of pilgrimage; a present I would receive from the universe or some form of lesson or learning I would experience whilst here. Little did I know that it would involve BINGO!

Open to the new

Today started far too early…2am to be precise!

But the day finished better than it started.

By the end of the day I had learned a lesson… a powerful and profound one.

mountains-691501_1280After my trip to the village yesterday and sweaty walk down the hillside… a lovely, albeit steep (and with the speed and nature of the driving here) oftentimes treacherous stroll in beautiful 23’ sunshine. I must have become rather over tired.

Once back at the apartment I contemplated my game of Bingo tomorrow as I washed clothes and laughed quietly to myself as I thought about how I would Never have considered such a thing at home, yet when we in different circumstances whether or not by choice, we often allow ourselves to become freer, and open to ‘the new.’

I dozed for what felt like a couple of hours in the late afternoon, which was still very hot… NINE HOURS LATER! I woke up at 2am wide awake. Far too darn early for this girl, but I’m felt very restless.

I potter for what seems like an age and then make myself go back to bed.

8am…the day rolls out

sunset-67900_1920This is more like it! A far more civilised time of the day to rise.

Meditation…shower & dressing…more pottering and some food shopping and by 11.04am I’m sitting outside the raw food shop.

Breakfast.

Hmmm… decisions. Will it be a smoothie today or a raw cake? I opt for cake.

chocolate-811794_1920Chocolate & orange…delicious and every morsel is good for every cell in your body. The only truly ‘guilt free indulgence.’ This will have to be a non-existent treat from now on as finances are getting more than a little tight to say the least!

money-1005477_1920In no way had I been extravagant, but I knew I was under resourced when I got on the plane and I suspect that was a another reason I was reluctant to come in the first place. At this point I have €50 to my name.

Who wants to scrimp when you’re on holiday?

So, with half my cake eaten and many conversations later I venture back home to rest up and be back outside the shop for another lift to the village with Kate and Pissouri Village BINGO!

Flow…

water-256195_1504pm and we ‘tootle’ up the steep chalky cliffs to Kate and Ryan’s lovely home (names changed to protect the innocent!)

Now remember I only had €50. I had to take a €20 note with me as Kate had told me bingo would cost €6 and there’d be a meal. Not bad I thought. I’d of course then have enough to give her some money for fuel as well.

I offer to pay her as we get to the clubhouse, ‘we’ll settle up at the end,’ she says. ‘Go with the flow,’ I say to myself, a mantra I had been silently repeating all day…

’Trust the angels.’

Earlier that afternoon, I had taken out my angel cards and done a reading just before getting ready to meet Kate: ‘Blessings,’ ‘Spiritual Growth,’ and for the third or fourth time this week I had drawn ‘Guardian Angel.’

angel-819644_1920So, I told myself to stay in trust, that the universe would support me and to give thanks After all, money or no, I was still in paradise.

I felt easier…

6 games of bingo were going to be played in total and I quickly got the hand of it…

Game one played…

Game two & game three played and the €20 for a line goes, then the €50 for a full house. There are only two games left.

I accept I’m not going to win.

I relax…

Game four: Fifteen numbers will be called. I’m off to a slow start. Nothing on my board Is coming up. It doesn’t matter, it’s about the taking part and with the other players all calling the numbers and the little ditty that goes with each of them…

legs-766046_1920”No. 11 –  legs eleven;

Two fat ladies – 88” etc… this is fun, plus I’m getting an education.

Then a roll of numbers come my way and my board is looking very healthy, but so too are those of a few others and at least three of us need only three more numbers to win.

The next number…I mark it off, then the next…awww, not one of mine, then the next, is one on my board. Just one more, one number, just one and then…

bingo-491228_1920“YEEEES!”

The winner takes it all

€50 won!

Oh my gosh!

It couldn’t have been a timelier nor a more welcome win.

fitness-332278_150I was so grateful and knew, just KNEW my angels had supported me in response to my belief in them and the gratitude I had shown for what I did have.

Once I’d relaxed and I allowed the flow, my gratitude had been the catapult that launched my desires into becoming manifest. Once I let go and was present, allowing the ‘flow,’ the energy kicked in and what I needed showed up, in perfect and divine timing.

Gratitude, gratefulness & Thank you

Once back in the apartment “Thank-you, Thank-you, Thank-you,” over and over was all I could think as I cried in gratitude and drifted to sleep that night.

That choice is yours too…

marseille-142394_1920All I know is that we are supported. Not just me, or those who we consider ‘special’ who we feel have a gift or stand out in some way, but each one of us.

All we need do is:

  • Ask
  • Believe &
  • Be grateful

Blissings & Much Love

Insightful Angel

 

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Pissouri Pilgrimage 3 Pebbles & Sand

Happy Sunday all,

Pissouri – Cyprus

6th October 2015

18.38pm (local time)

Day three

purple-972434_1920 The sun is down now and there’s a purply-blue hue to the atmosphere. I’m on the terrace writing and feeling pretty at home I must say. Who knows, maybe this is a premonition; some dejá vue and in the future I will spend my life in the sun writing?

What a dream that would be?

Today started before the sun came up and before the ‘tring-a-ling’ of my mobile’s alarm.

I sat on the terrace for a while contemplating what to do with the day whilst in the distance the ‘whoooosh’ and ‘Schweeeee’ sounds of the swell of the sea and the waves sweeping as the tide came in, seemed particularly potent; a powerful draw, calling me to venture out.

Walking in Sunrise

stones-113791_1280So, as many still slept, including the sun, I ventured out to walk the length of the beach and explore a little.

Surprisingly, though it was only about 7.30am, one or two people were around and one woman had clearly been in the sea for some time already as she was walking back to her apartment wet and panting.

The walk was really quite invigorating. It’s hard work walking on shifting pebbles, great for the thighs and the tummy… so early morning exercise is ticked off the list.

I walked and walked on a journey that took me up a steep path that eventually led me above the sea and round the curve of the bay to give a wonderful panoramic view of the bay. A complete and perfect, chalky ‘C’ shape…kissed by a greyish blue swell.

Marvels and wonders

diaz-beach-940859_1920I marvelled at how lovely it all was and wondered at the sights this bay must have seen and the experiences it observed unchanging over the centuries.

Ancient Nubians fishing and swimming & building; the descent of Roman galleons invading the bay, that these very same cliffs must have taken in; the loss of many Ancient Greek sandals from lovers and friends; the remnants of shrapnel, devastation from two world wars; mementos, which now lay buried deep among the pebbles and the seaweed and the moss on the beach;

Sand & Pebbles

Pebbles & SandMy head hurt with the thought that there were millions, probably billions or trillions of pebbles and grains of sand on this one beach alone, and this was one beach on the island of Cyprus and Cyprus is one island, one tiny land mass that has many beaches, so how many grains of sand and how many pebbles are there across the planet?

Yet though

One pebble, one grain of sand on its own cannot make up a beach, every pebble and grain contributes to the creation of the beach.

All of it, I came to realise meant that we are but fleeting experiences for our planet. We are a mere nanosecond on the timeline of evolution so, is anything we experience REALLY so important that we need to feel stressed and unhappy about it?

When we realise we have all the time in the world, but no time at all in the experience of the world then surely we need to ‘get on with it,’ live every moment and be grateful for everything?

In the same way that we are inconsequential, we are too, like the pebble and the singular grain of sand, are a part of  everything; a part of the ‘beach.’

Without each ‘one’ next to another ‘one’ there can be no beach, no ‘whole’ and in that regard we are so darned fortunate to be here; a part of everything, yet separate and whole in our ‘Oneness.’

1.23am

I have just arrived back at the apartment.

Last in the restaurant; I cheekily stayed to use their WIFI and post Sunday and Monday’s blog posts. They didn’t seem to mind.

Then, after a dark and humid stroll…

rain-567512_1280A downpour!

I get home with 10 minutes to spare before…

Pissouri precipitation in extremis!

The perfect end to a beautiful day.

Blissings & much love

Insightful Angel

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Friends

Happy Sunday All,

With FriendsIn honour of our friends

I had a fabulous afternoon/early evening today. I spent just over five hours talking, laughing and reminiscing with some people who know me better than most.

These were some people who were a part of my formative years and who are, in many ways, significant contributors partly responsible for me being the person I am today.

The conversation was buoyant and lively and it ‘fizzed.’ It was loving and comfortable.

There was so much laughter…

It was The kind of conversation you can only have with those you respect and trust, those who know you inside out and will be there for you come rain or shine.

At one point I felt, what I can only describe as almost like an ‘out of body experience.’ As I sat around the restaurant table I felt out of the action. In that moment I felt an overwhelming feeling of gratitude.

Out of body

fractal spiritI felt blessed

Blessed because I was in the company of some of my friends.

These women were some of my oldest friends…

We all know how important it is to have friends, but do we ignore just how important having friends is in or lives?

We all need a friend at times. They’re vital for our sanity and stability. They help us find our sense of self. We all  needs friends and not just for the everyday, common-sense reasons that you might at first think.

The Pollster

In a 2006 Gallop poll Tom Rath, the organisation’s  director at the time, identified that when you asked many people why their marriages failed; why they became homeless or why the had issues with food and weight, they cited having friendships that were unsatisfying or poor or no friendships at all as being a major contributing factor.

shield-229112_1280The consequences of this were that people felt outcast and unloved when their friendship relationships were less than satisfying, so let’s not underestimate the contribution that having good friends makes to our emotional, physical and yes, spiritual well-being.

Without good friends these people felt outcast and unloved, isolated and discarded.

The Data

The statistics he discovered revealed:

“If your best friend eats healthily, you are five times more likely to have a healthy diet yourself. Married people say friendship is more than five times as important as physical intimacy within marriage. Those who say they have no real friends at work have only a one in 12 chance of feeling engaged in their job. Conversely, if you have a “best friend at work”, you are seven times more likely to feel engaged in your job.”

The family you choose

2014-04-29 18.46.39Friendships are vital for our wellbeing and through them we have a sense of value in our lives. Your friends are the family you choose. With our friends there is mutual development and growth as you experience things together. Friendships serve as a mirror and within our friendships there’s a feeling of acceptance that we don’t perhaps receive anywhere else.

Being accepted unequivocally means we feel ‘Cconnected.’ If our lives are to have meaning then we have a need to feel connected to someone.

The Good friend…The Best friend

Do you recognise yourself here? Many of us say we’re friends and would claim we are ‘good’ or even ‘best’ friends to another, but what does a good/best friend look like?

A good friend is a shoulder to cry on… your fiercest defender and your staunchest supporter.

A good friend sacrifices their time and energy to listen when you are down and cheer you on to even greater victory or success.

  • They believe in you
  • They stand by you
  • They support you

FriendsThey have their own lives and families yes, and there will be times when there is distance between you, but they will always make time at some point to chat or come together to create new memories together as you remember the old ones.

A good friend doesn’t necessarily have to sacrifice to be a good friend or have the answers. They may not necessarily understand what it is you’re going through, but to qualify as a friend they/we should be wiling to be there when our friend needs us.

We may not have the answers or be able to offer advice, mostly (they don’t need us to) but a good friend recognises their friend’s need and is willing to simply listen.

Having someone be there for you in the low points of your life is vital.

Even life-saving

What kind of friend are you?

hand-782688_1280When a friend reaches out to you it is a gift and an honour because they’re showing the trust they have in you and the  respect they have for you. So treat their need for your time or to listen with the respect it deserves or you may later come to regret not being your most supportive.

By not being there for your friend, if you are less than present, you may irreparably damage the beauty that is the friendship. This is especially true if they have been there for you in times of need in the past.

For today and the rest of this week, honour and thank your friends for being such wonderful gifts in your life and consider How do YOU honour your friendships?

How do YOU show your friend(s) their importance to you?

Remember the street called ‘Friendship’ has traffic which runs both ways.

Blissings & Much love

Insightful Angel

 

 

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Half Century

Happy Sunday all,

This isn’t the post I intended to send to you today. I had a minor disaster a few minutes ago and at the point of completion, my post for this week disappeared. (Thank you WordPress). Two hours of time and loving labour down the drain on a sunny Sunday. Not happy as you can imagine.

Anyhow, I’ve picked myself up and decided to change my theme as I love sending these messages to you and truly appreciate the loving support I get from you all.

Well, Yesterday I reached a landmark. I managed to get through a ‘Half  Century’ on this plane.

 Half Century

be-511555_1280Half century of (and in no particular order) Self discovery and challenge, a half century of worry and stress, a half century of love & loving and joy, a half century of hope and dreaming, a half century of disappointment and letdown, a half century of laughter and tears, a half century of …‘the little things,’ a half century of magic and blissings, a half century of fun and learning and frustration and pain, a half century of being and doing, a half century of ME.

Just me learning and growing and becoming ME

The more I become ME, the happier I am

The more loving I am and the more love I receive in return.

The more accepting I am of ME the more acceptance I receive

The journey

2014-06-01 20.09.36On this journey I have discovered many things. Many things which I often share with you here, but if there is one thing I’d share in the hope that you truly understand, one message that I hope my children, your children, you and all you know will hear and truly take to heart, then that one message, THE most significant gift I can give you is this…

Find and be YOU, the real, authentic, maddening, loving, eclectic, funny, quirky, sophisticated, complex, annoying, talented, creative, original you – As soon as possible and step right into those shoes made just for YOU.

Learn from me: Each one Teach one

Know that whoever you are, you show the glory of the universe back to itself. That all you ever want or ever need is available to YOU if YOU decide you are worthy of it.friends-52662_150

  • Life has taught me that resistance is futile. Resistance creates tension and tension creates pressure and pressure leads to the organism breaking down
  • Life has taught me that we are here to be happy, deliriously and ecstatically happy and if we’re not we have a divine right to change things so that we are
  • Life has taught me that worry is nonsense. It simply creates upset and tension (see above)
  • Life has taught me that it will always be alright in the end
  • Life has taught me that you are guided and you are never alone
  • Life has taught me that if we do not pay attention to and learn the lessons we are being taught we WILL have to repeat them again and again, with increasing degrees of pain until we DO pay attention.
  • Life has taught me that LOVE is all there is…Love conquers all
  • Life has taught me we can have, be and do anything we choose…

You, you and you alone…Watch your words

It’s all down to YOU.

Your thoughts, your deeds your intentions.

They all emanate from you and so you create your world from YOU and for YOU

Make no apology for being YOU

Be loyal to YOU

Accept YOU

Be kind to YOU

Respect YOU

Love YOU

Be silent with YOU

Cherish the uniqueness of YOU

Be fully present and celebrate the Wonder that is YOU:

 Much love & Blissings

Insightful Angel

 

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Finding Family

Happy Sunday All,

This week I intended to give you the second instalment of ‘letting go a pathway to peace’ but the last few days have taught me a most valuable, indeed THE most valuable lesson and so today I’m sharing that here with you. Finding family is your key to being accepted for who you are and stepping into the light of your full being.

When you find your family you finally come home Continue reading Finding Family

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In search of Joy?

Hello there, How are you this Happy Sunday?

In this conversation I’d like us to consider how we can live, as I firmly believe we are here to live life, which is fully, completely, whole-heartedly and in Joy and NOT as drudges or in a perpetual state of tiredness making do, putting up with, accepting and OR running, running and running, to  feel as if we’re going no-where; wondering ‘is this all there is?’

The dictionary defines ‘Comfort.’ as:

  • 1. A state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint.
  • 2. consolation for grief or anxiety.
  • 3. Verb to feel less unhappy

Whereas ‘Joy’ is defined as:

  • 1. A feeling of great pleasure and happiness.
  • 2. Success or satisfaction
  • Synonyms cited are words such as; bliss delight, ecstasy, euphoria, rapture

Which do you choose?

right-238369_150Looking at both of these definitions, I know which one I would prefer to experience. How often though do we opt for the former state repressing and containing our joy ‘just in case,’ so we’re not too disappointed should our success/love/ambition be snatched away or worse still we fail?

On an episode of Oprah Winfrey’s ‘Super Soul Sunday,’ Dr Brené Brown discusses her *4 guideline for wholehearted living, which she says is:

  • ‘The cultivation of Gratitude and Joy.’
  • Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark

‘When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, Joy becomes foreboding.’

Brené continues this means:

I’m not going to feel you, I’m not going to soften into this moment of joy, because I’m scared. I’m afraid it’s going to be taken away from me.’ 

 

I recognise this scenario only too well myself.

fear-299679_640The fearful ‘What if?’

The younger version of me was a very contained person. I rarely cried. I had learnt early on to repress emotions, especially the ones which contained feelings of joy. In doing so I would never be disappointed. If I didn’t expect much than I wouldn’t suffer agony of not achieving/having my heart’s desire.

I was well practised at minimising the ‘joy’ and opted instead for the familiarity and less threatening ‘comfortable.’ Feeling joy is inherently dangerous.

These feelings are, more often than not followed by the thought that something ‘bad’ or unsavoury is just around the corner because it all feels just a little ‘TOO’ good and I know you know what I’m talking about!

Every so often we’ll do a little mental inventory of where we’re at.

Once we work our way down the tick-list and slowly realise that things are going good… not only that, things are good in all areas; work, home, parents, friends, financial etc…we begin to assume that it can’t ALL be this good and something bad is lurking just around the corner.

I’ve heard it from friends, family members and colleagues many times… ‘It won’t last…’ ‘Yeah I’m good… something’s bound to go wrong!’ and although we may say it ‘tongue in cheek’…somewhere deep down we believe it.

Without Vulnerability there can be no Joy

self-doubt-424968_1280At this point in my life I can honestly confess to you that I am living in JOY.

It’s amazing!

It’s where everyone should living

Not a day goes by without someone telling me how wonderful I look and that is because of the joy which simply oozes out from within me. It is a better state to be in than the ‘comfortable’ state of being in which I refused to feel, to express, to be too big, to dare too greatly incase it was all snatched away and I would be left bereft.

 

Opening up to JOY makes you VULNERABLE

Roller-Coaster OR Merry-GO-Round?

roundabout-57858_150The former choice is to choose the ‘Merry-go-Round’ of life. There’s some movement, but after a few times round you kind of get to know what’s coming up next. You’ve been here before, you can handle this, you’re armed and ready. No surprises!

The alternative is the Roller Coaster…It scares the S**t out of you, you don’t know if you’ll survive it…the intensity of it…it’s not safe, what if you fall off? So many uncertainties to counter. ride-61624_1280

But…let me tell you how wonderful it is to bite the bullet and ride that damned roller-coaster!

Yes! All the aforementioned fears are credible, but if you’ve every ridden a roller-coaster you know the thrill, the feeling of being alive that you experience. Every fibre of your being, every nerve ending, every sense is sharp and alert.

Expanded…more alert…more alive!

You feel expanded and fearful, yet strangely fearless at the same time. You’re out of control and vulnerable, stripped back and laid bare, much like the feelings you experience when making love…didn’t our dictionary offer up the synonyms ‘rapture,’ and ‘ecstasy?’

In that moment you can do nothing but surrender to the experience because whether in that moment you live or die is no longer in your control!human-329851_150

When we surrender…When we submit to vulnerability we expand

On reflection you realise you’ve expanded your being somehow. You’re somehow bigger, brighter!

You’re no longer shrunken and you can’t go back.

In fact the immediate want once you’ve jumped off a roller-caster is often to jump straight back on and experience it all over again because your realise the next time you will fully commit to FEELING the joy in what you’re doing.  You realise that the first time there was still some fear and a part of you was holding back.

Red pill or blue…which will you choose?

So this week…I’m challenging you (and myself) to be vulnerable. To allow yourself to climb onto the roller-coaster and go for the ride of your life!

Expose yourself…reveal… who you are…dare to submit and if you can do this alongside cultivating feelings of gratitude I guarantee you will not regret it.

Is there something you want to do or achieve that scares you? Great! make a change and take a step towards it. You’re scared for all the reasons I stated above, but be assured stepping into it will catapult you into such a feeling of joy and gratitude and expansion you will never want to ride the merry-go-round again.

I confess…

sad-girl-236769_150This week I realised a great fear I have had all my life…so here and now I will expose myself to you my readers, supporters and friends. If I am to support others on their journey I need to fully immerse myself in the principles I say I hold dear and so I’m allowing myself to be vulnerable and share with you my vision.

It’s one which scares me.

It feels arrogant and reminds me of all those times when asked as a child, ‘Who do you think you are?’ or as an adult accused (more than once) of thinking I am ‘better than everyone else!’

I forced myself to create a mission statement for my Personal Development and Coaching business this week and as I looked at the words I’d written in pink ink, I felt a tremendous fear rise and that familiar voice inside said ‘WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?’

So here in pink…I am declaring the me I am choose to be in this world: I declare that I aim to be:

“The Spark that ignites the power and potentiality in others.

To stand bathed in, fully immersed in my magnificence, power and abundance

and to always support others to do the same.”

The Challenge

Sure there are no guarantees…accessing your joy doesn’t mean life’s trials suddenly melt away, but boy are you more ready and capable of dealing with them and you’ll find you’ll come through stronger and more expanded…rock-climbing-403488_1280

A bigger, better version of you…

A version you accept and love…

The version of  you, you were always meant to be.

 

Blessings & much love

Insightful Angel

 

 

 

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Happiness and how to achieve it

Happy Sunday everyone!

This week I ruminate on the last of our most powerful regrets as we die.

It’s a biggie!

I wish I’d been happier

fitness-332278_150It pains me that so many of us today feel that happiness and how we gain it is such an elusive quality in our lives, as if it’s something that exists outside of ourselves.

The key to being happy, is first to believe you deserve it, to believe and really understand that it is the right of each one of us has the right to happiness in this life of ours.

We are not here to suffer.

We are not here to cry.

As I see it most of us fall into one of several types:

  • The one who chases it, believing external recognition or ‘things’ will make them happy
  • The one who believes everyone else has it but they don’t and never will
  • The one who believes to have it they need to take it from others
  • The one who believes the world is ‘agin ’em’
  • Then there’s the worst example of all the; ‘The Happiness Vampires: ‘ 

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There are two types:

  1. They’re the ones who attach themselves to bright, shiny, upbeat, positive people and try to rubbish, criticise, ‘pooh pooh’ and generally throw cold water on their bright, warm positivity bonfire at every turn
  2. Or else they hang around manipulating them into using their talents to help them (the vampire recognises the food source by instinct. They’re usually ‘giving types’ so they use the energy of the giver, their greater energy and experience to boost themselves, suck them dry and then leave… stepping on their ‘spent’ carcass as they go!

All types are hoping to create one thing…

That you’ll become just like them…

See I’m right!

Their deepest desire is for you to begin to work in the world the way they do, think they way they think and generally agree with them so that they can feel justified in moaning and crying and bitching and simply wallowing, yes wallowing in their particular point of view.

I’m sure we can all bring to mind someone who falls into one or other of these categories, maybe it’s you? If so, the good news is, you didn’t start out that way…you changed and so you can make a choice and change once again.

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We all want to ‘fit in.’

We humans are pack animals and need to live in communities and communities by their very nature, need order and conformity to survive.

What most of the types listed are hoping to achieve is a shift in your attitudes and behaviours that mirror their own. This serves then to prove that their choices and attitudes are correct and they can then shout:

‘You see, so and so thinks like I do; I MUST be right!”

baby-29483_150From the cradle

The moulding & shaping starts early.

As children we are taught from well-meaning and loving adults that our natural exuberance (too loud), or curiosity (ask too many questions), or need to express our joy (showoff)…

Are just Not Acceptable in certain circumstances.

Over time those circumstances become too many and confusing to mention and then we’re so confused we just give up on being our authentic selves. It seems too hard and causes too much trouble (for others usually!)

Alternatively, we seek attention in negative and destructive ways in an effort to  be ‘seen’ and feel worthy.

Adulthood then becomes either an endless search (once we recognise something isn’t right and we’re more than this) to reclaim the lost ‘authentic self,’ or else it becomes a life of quiet and perpetual ‘desperation.’

Living lives that do not serve us.

Living lives that do not thrill us.

Those that embark on the search, in more cases than not, do so in the face of disapproval, criticism or resentment from the wider community. There goes that need to get you to ‘comply’ again!

Yet, we have the means to make ourselves happy all the time, at any time.

 Just do YOU

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In my experience the more you…

  • Follow your heart; you DO know what’s good for YOU
  • Listen to your intuition
  • Do the things that makes your heart sing, that makes time stands still and puts you in the ‘flow’
  • Show Compassion
  • Show Gratitude 
  • Show Love
  • Contribute to your Community & Society
  • Allow: Vulnerability in yourself and others: Be authentically you and allow others to show you themselves authentically
  • Honour your body by eating well and exercising. Appreciate who you are. Accept yourselfman-65693_150
  • Be Still: Regenerate and recuperate by being Silent and Still at some point every day.
  • Recognise your journey is YOURS and yours alone, you have the right and the freedom to Create the path you take
  • DO NO HARM: Verbally…Emotionally…Psychologically…Physically

These are the keys to being happy.

It may seem relatively simple, but it is!

As I navigate this journey of mine, I realise that the simpler my life gets the happier I become.

The more I adhere to the list, the more I’m fulfilled and the more joy I feel.

We are here to find our happiness, we are here to find JOY.

Take a look at your life. Which areas of the list could you work on? Start today and make a change. Just start with ONE thing.

Take the step today towards your happiness and make sure that when the time comes for you to leave this earthly plane you have absolutely…

NO REGRETS!

Blessings & Love

Insightful Angel

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Gratitude

Happy Sunday all,

Revelation

This post recalls a day, a few months ago, when I felt a profound feeling of gratitude I thought today, this Sunday, would be an appropriate time to share the events, thoughts and feelings from that day with you, in the hope that what I write here today supports you on the rest of your journey.

I’m sure you’ve experienced a time in your life when everything just seemed to fit. Everything was easy and you experienced a sense of peace.

It may have been some form of sport you were playing and every member of the team seemed are working in synch; the action played itself out in slow motion and from player to player there was a complete connectedness. Or perhaps you were writing or creating something and you suddenly found yourself in a rhythm, a hypnotic, almost meditative flow.

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It was boxing day, 26th December 2013 when even though I have read many texts and attended many seminars that explained the path to a fulfilled, happy life, I somehow suddenly ‘got it.’ The pieces of the jigsaw fell into place and I was lucky enough to understand when and how those principles had been at worked throughout my life.

Though we can learn about a concept or an idea and know a theory in principle, it is only when we ‘feel’ that principle or idea working in our life in some way, that the ‘click’ occurs and we are able to feel connected to that universal flow.

When you’re in the ‘flow’ you no longer feel as though you have several of the pieces of the jigsaw missing, that you’re not quite connecting.

person-110305_150All day I was overcome by two overwhelming feelings:

One was GRATITUDE and the other, well all I can describe it as, was JOY.

It was an overwhelming feeling of being happy, at peace and feeling so so lucky to have what I have.

For one day I wasn’t constantly contemplating how to create success, a new career, wealth, health etc., an ever-recurring series of thoughts, that nearly all of us are too pre-occupied with, left me and I felt a complete acceptance of where I was in that precise moment.

I began to focus solely on what I DID HAVE instead of what I felt was missing from my life.

It was an illuminating experience and one I felt I should share, as I’m convinced  it is the way to create not only a better mood, but to conjure up that condition of ‘being in the flow’ and attracting more of what we want in our lives.

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On that day, once I’d connected with that feeling, whatever had gone before in my life seemed redundant.

I was enveloped in what I can only describe as a shroud of thankfulness – Gratitude.

I guess I’d call it Grace.

I’ve never know what those people who are religious mean when they talk about a state of grace and I had assumed it was something that only those of us who have a faith and have a religious practise would experience, but not someone like me.

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Thanks to Hollywood and the vivid depictions of biblical events in which God/Universe speaks via a specially selected person who is invariably accompanied by dramatic weather as a backdrop. We imagine that when the divine or spirit or ‘grace,’ touches us, our experience will be just like that. Monumental. thunderbolts are followed by rolling thunder, overwhelming emotions will engulf us. We imagine too, that the heavens will open and strange and unusual events will occur.

I however, I think that spirit is much more intelligent than that.

The divine touches us in more subtle, yet profound ways… Evidence of the divine appears in events that are not loud and crashing, but soothing, subtle and gentle.

Despite the subtlety, the divine permeates your very core and infuses every cell of your being until you literally feel as though you’re glowing with gratitude, faith, hope or joy…whatever emotion it is that you’re experiencing in that moment, you simply feel it.

Inside & out.

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On the day I mentioned, I woke up reasonably early, completed a full Yoga workout for an hour or so and then meditated for what seemed like another full hour.

I drifted into a meditative state quite quickly and almost immediately I felt a wave, a rush of emotion sweep over me.

A huge swell of thankfulness.

This thankful feeling grew and grew. I began to feel so very happy to be in the space I found myself in.

I was happy for the state of health I was experiencing, blessed to have my children, my mother, my father, sister and friends, but this feeling of gratitude felt strange. Was this what if I grace was present?

I say strange because I realise I was feeling grateful not just for the positives I mentioned, but this feeling was also seeping into every experience in my life, even the horrific and uncomfortable ones.

Yes, I was feeling grateful for all the horrors too!

I wanted to come out of the reverie, as it felt alien, however I struggled and settled and then surrendered to it.

The longer I stayed bathed in the feeling the clearer things became.

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I realised that EVERYTHING I had experienced in my life had led me to that precise moment, that precise time in my life and it was THAT MOMENT that I felt grateful for. So yes, of course, everything I’d experienced, even the horrors in my life had were appreciated and thanked for bringing me to the exact point, on that day.

For the most of that day, I was floating, light and in a playful mood.

I was content.

The most unusual thing though, was that everywhere I went and everything I did  seemed to throw up events or people who provided even more events and memories I could be grateful for, opportunities to whisper to myself and to the universe a huge ‘thank you.’

‘Thank you’ for who I was, where I was, whom I was with, how my life had manifest up to that point.

Importantly, I had a sense of surety that the abundant future I was trying to create was on its way to me.

It was a feeling like no other and convinced me that spirit and grace were walking with me. I gained clarity of thought that day and ideas I had previously had, became much clearer.flowers-72177_150

Gratitude is: the energy that creates our lives.

The petrol that fuels our abundance engine.

The more grateful we are for what we have and where we are, the more swiftly what we wish for comes to us. Then  we are given more and more and more opportunities to say ‘Thank you.’

If we are grateful we receive more abundance, more events, gifts and people, appear in our lives, that we feel grateful for…

So we feel compelled to say:

‘Thank you, for all I have, all I am and all I will be.’

The path to fulfilling your dreams is laid with cobblestones of gratitude.

So, my message today is propel yourself closer to your desires, your hopes and your dreams through the spirit of thankfulness.

BE GRATEFUL

Start today…go on…just say ‘Thank you.’thank-you-140227_640

When you feel more comfortable, speak out loud all the things you are thankful for, or if you’re shy of speaking out, for fear you’ll be thought of as mad, then write it all down.

You’ll find your life starting to run more smoothly, as these feelings of gratitude increase. You’ll become addicted because they feel so good, so good that you’ll want to stay bathed in them.

You’ll find you won’t be able to stop finding more and more reasons to be grateful.

The feelings that well up inside are so beautiful you’ll want to weep.

There are always opportunities for thankfulness opportunities to make a change, to see the best in a situation and learn the lesson it wants to share with you.

Remember the quote from the film ‘The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.’

Everything will be all right in the end and if it’s not all right, then it’s not the end.’

Blessings and love

Insightful Angel

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