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Limitless

Happy Sunday everyone!

There are those days in your life that even when you’re in the moment you KNOW in your very cells that THIS MOMENT is one that is changing your life. You’re filled with fear and trepidation because you know you will never be the same again, but you have no idea how or why or what it all means…

Yesterday was such a day for me.

cropped-life-is-beautiful-905867_1280.jpgI’m talking about the fabulous Richard McCann & his transformative and I mean TRANSFORMATIVE, speaking Bootcamp!

I spent the day shaking! Literally shaking…unsteady on my feet every time I went back to my seat and crying with emotion. The energy in the room was palpable. Thick and hot and you just knew, something was ‘HAPPENING’

What yesterday taught me is that we are limitless.

Twelve people walked into a room, complete strangers. Each one of us nursing our individual anxieties, fears, and limiting beliefs and we walked out friends, and I do not use the term lightly, connected in a way that I have rarely experienced in my life before and expanded beyond what we could ever have imagined before we entered that room.

With each round of activities, the compassion and love grew. Each one of us holding a space so the very best of each of us could emerge and boy did we emerge!

superhero-534120_1280There’s a film called ‘Limitless.’ Starring Bradley Cooper. I really like this film. Anything that shows me how limitless we are and the power of the human spirit and abilities captivates me. Yet in this film Bradley has to use a powerful drug to access the limitless side of his nature and we learn that there are dire consequences to it’s extended use.

As yesterday unfolded there was none of the Hollywood glamour of people accessing their limitless potential, but just a beautifully soft, compassionate blossoming of it.

In the space of seven hours, I saw people transformed. YES! Transformed. It was the most beautiful sight to see. Some walked taller, some straighter, spoke louder, stood stronger and as I watched it all unfold I couldn’t help but marvel on how amazing we EACH & EVERY ONE of us is – Without exception.

Grow model - New shootWhen we allow ourselves to be tested, but we are encouraged, supported and loved, there is nothing… ABSOLUTELY NOTHING we cannot achieve!

The people I met yesterday had already achieved the most incredible things, come through the most testing of times and yet were humbly denying their magnificence and supporting one another to be even better, push through barriers and become even more expanded… cheering them on to their fullest, limitless potential.

I was truly bless yesterday and the angles were with us in that room, but what I want you to get, and REALLY get this, is that its in ALL of us.

Each of us has the capacity, talent and ability to reach for anything we wish and make it happen.

If the situation you are in, or the people around you are not conducive to you stepping into your limitless power and possibility, then Change IT!

But, more importantly…

Do not be afraid to reach out and ask for help.

It is our natural state to connect and be connected, it is in our DNA to be supportive.

woman-41891_1280So, for today, (Grandma-to-be-baby-shower-duties-call) I’m going to leave you here.

  • Do it now!
  • Hold someone’s hand and unlock their prison doors,
  • Unlock you own by asking for the help you need to step into the life you want to achieve
  • Take a risk
  • Challenge yourself
  • Be your BEST self

Access YOUR limitless potential!

I am indebted to the following people for being my Eath Angels yesterday up the sincerest and most loving gratitude to Yoen van Velzen, Angela Dowd, Christine Wragg, Emma, Eula, Corrina Lawrence, Farah, The beautiful Michael Brodie, Nick, Julie, Lisa & the masterful and inspirational Richard

Love, love, love to you all

Blissings & much love

Insightful Angel

 

 

 

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Friends

Happy Sunday All,

With FriendsIn honour of our friends

I had a fabulous afternoon/early evening today. I spent just over five hours talking, laughing and reminiscing with some people who know me better than most.

These were some people who were a part of my formative years and who are, in many ways, significant contributors partly responsible for me being the person I am today.

The conversation was buoyant and lively and it ‘fizzed.’ It was loving and comfortable.

There was so much laughter…

It was The kind of conversation you can only have with those you respect and trust, those who know you inside out and will be there for you come rain or shine.

At one point I felt, what I can only describe as almost like an ‘out of body experience.’ As I sat around the restaurant table I felt out of the action. In that moment I felt an overwhelming feeling of gratitude.

Out of body

fractal spiritI felt blessed

Blessed because I was in the company of some of my friends.

These women were some of my oldest friends…

We all know how important it is to have friends, but do we ignore just how important having friends is in or lives?

We all need a friend at times. They’re vital for our sanity and stability. They help us find our sense of self. We all  needs friends and not just for the everyday, common-sense reasons that you might at first think.

The Pollster

In a 2006 Gallop poll Tom Rath, the organisation’s  director at the time, identified that when you asked many people why their marriages failed; why they became homeless or why the had issues with food and weight, they cited having friendships that were unsatisfying or poor or no friendships at all as being a major contributing factor.

shield-229112_1280The consequences of this were that people felt outcast and unloved when their friendship relationships were less than satisfying, so let’s not underestimate the contribution that having good friends makes to our emotional, physical and yes, spiritual well-being.

Without good friends these people felt outcast and unloved, isolated and discarded.

The Data

The statistics he discovered revealed:

“If your best friend eats healthily, you are five times more likely to have a healthy diet yourself. Married people say friendship is more than five times as important as physical intimacy within marriage. Those who say they have no real friends at work have only a one in 12 chance of feeling engaged in their job. Conversely, if you have a “best friend at work”, you are seven times more likely to feel engaged in your job.”

The family you choose

2014-04-29 18.46.39Friendships are vital for our wellbeing and through them we have a sense of value in our lives. Your friends are the family you choose. With our friends there is mutual development and growth as you experience things together. Friendships serve as a mirror and within our friendships there’s a feeling of acceptance that we don’t perhaps receive anywhere else.

Being accepted unequivocally means we feel ‘Cconnected.’ If our lives are to have meaning then we have a need to feel connected to someone.

The Good friend…The Best friend

Do you recognise yourself here? Many of us say we’re friends and would claim we are ‘good’ or even ‘best’ friends to another, but what does a good/best friend look like?

A good friend is a shoulder to cry on… your fiercest defender and your staunchest supporter.

A good friend sacrifices their time and energy to listen when you are down and cheer you on to even greater victory or success.

  • They believe in you
  • They stand by you
  • They support you

FriendsThey have their own lives and families yes, and there will be times when there is distance between you, but they will always make time at some point to chat or come together to create new memories together as you remember the old ones.

A good friend doesn’t necessarily have to sacrifice to be a good friend or have the answers. They may not necessarily understand what it is you’re going through, but to qualify as a friend they/we should be wiling to be there when our friend needs us.

We may not have the answers or be able to offer advice, mostly (they don’t need us to) but a good friend recognises their friend’s need and is willing to simply listen.

Having someone be there for you in the low points of your life is vital.

Even life-saving

What kind of friend are you?

hand-782688_1280When a friend reaches out to you it is a gift and an honour because they’re showing the trust they have in you and the  respect they have for you. So treat their need for your time or to listen with the respect it deserves or you may later come to regret not being your most supportive.

By not being there for your friend, if you are less than present, you may irreparably damage the beauty that is the friendship. This is especially true if they have been there for you in times of need in the past.

For today and the rest of this week, honour and thank your friends for being such wonderful gifts in your life and consider How do YOU honour your friendships?

How do YOU show your friend(s) their importance to you?

Remember the street called ‘Friendship’ has traffic which runs both ways.

Blissings & Much love

Insightful Angel

 

 

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Friends & Friendship – a Special Love

friendship-63743_150Happy Sunday all

Acquiring friends and developing lasting friendships are perhaps two of the most emotionally satisfying things we create in our lives. As we journey through life, learning and developing, it’s our friends that are the marrow in our bones, feeding us, supporting us, keeping us strong so we become all that we could ever imagine.

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  • See the vision for who we could be before we are able to recognise it in ourselves.
  • Drop everything to be by our side at the slightest hint of upset or trouble.
  • Love us through the hard times
  • Are loyal to us
  • Are not afraid to tell us we’re wrong
  • Believe in us
  • Make us laugh
  • Know when to leave us alone
  • Respect us
  • Always want the best for us
  • Celebrate our successes
  • Trust us
  • Our friends Love us

For exactly who we are…

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses…

Yet, I’m sure many of you reading this now, have a friend or two maybe, that you’ve let disappear from your lives. I’m sure most of us have at least one friend that we wish we’d kept in touch with? Perhaps your excuse was the distance, or they’ve changed or we no longer have the same things in common.

What ever the excuse, that’s just what it is; an excuse!

The regret, that comes in at number four (on our list of five) when we find ourselves at the point of leaving this earthly plane is:

  • “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends…”

FriendsMy mother always said: “you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.”

Meaning, that your friends are the family YOU create.

They display the behaviours, talents and attitudes you would prefer to see in your life and in the world.

Unfortunately, that’s not always the case with family.

Are we not here to self-create?

Are we not here to live lives that are an ‘authentic’ expressions of who we ‘choose’ to be?

So, if a family member is making choices and creating a life imbued with attitudes and behaviours that we refute, are we not entitled to keep them at arm’s length, as we would anyone else whose values we do not share?

However I digress. Back to friendship.

love-115878_150Love yourself first

When it comes to friendships, I can say wholeheartedly, I have learnt that they will never be satisfying unless you are friends with YOURSELF first. I’ll give you an example:

Let’s say you’ve something you want to bring into your life. Your friend has been supportive in your attempts to achieve/acquire this quality or gift, they believe in you and think you deserve the best that life has to offer and they tell you this often. Yet somehow you are not able to attain what it is you’re striving for.

Is the inability to feel deserving the issue?

Are you being as good a friend to yourself as your friend is to you and you are to them?

In order to accept the beauty inherent in our friendships, we need to be able to accept the beauty within ourselves. See yourself through your friends eyes.

Those that know me know one of my mottos is:

‘Like attracts like…’

So try to ignore the doubting voice within, the negative tape on a loop that endlessly plays through your list of ‘could be betters.’

Accept that the wonderful qualities you see in your friends are a mirror of the qualities, and the beauty, captured within the soul in YOU.

a-flower-for-you-173549_150Be willing to receive

Practise being a good friend, by being a friend to yourself first.

Be willing to give to yourself.

Be willing to receive.

If you cannot display the qualities of friendship that you appreciate in others in your own reflections of yourself then, regardless of how many friends you have, life will feel lonely and you will always find a reason to justify the non-appearance of whatever it is you’re looking for in life.

girls-344334_150Be the friend you want to see

Being a friend means you swear an oath. An oath to be someone your friend can trust. It means keeping your word and being there when you say you will. The best way to have and keep good friends is to be one.

Keep your promises.

We all know that there are times when things show up, when you have to change a plan, but you need to be dependable. No-one likes a flake! If ‘ducking out’ and ‘letting down’ become regular habits, your friend is unable to depend on you. You are a ‘fair weather friend.’ there when times are good, but noticeably absent when they need you most. Being this way means you are eroding their trust and eventually they’ll stop believing what you say.

pinky-swear-329329_150Be honest

Being honest about how you feel opens up direct lines of communication with your friends and will make them more likely to open up to you. If your friend has upset you in some way, don’t feel too shy to open up to your friend about it.

Being honest is not about being brutal and so blunt that you hurt them. If you think your friend has a problem for example, perhaps drink or any other problem which has the potential to destroy their lives, then you owe it to your friend to start a conversation about it.

But if you think your friend looks kind of weird in her new dress, assess the situation, you know your friend and in this instance you may want to keep your mouth shut. Especially if s/he feels they look amazing.

Why not leave them with that feeling and not shoot them down dampening their spirit?

Be Real 

Connect with the people you value on a deep level if you want to have long-term friendships that you can sustain through life’s ups and downs. Invest in people you can be yourself around. If the way you behave is insincere, your friendships won’t last.

Be Loyalkid-165253_150

If your friend tells you something in confidence, keep it and don’t talk about it with anyone else, just as you’d expect your friend to do for you. Never say anything about your friend that you would not be prepared to say to them face-to-face and be ready to defend them if other friends or people you barely know, gossip about them.

  • Part of being loyal is understanding how important a long-lasting and stable friendship is. Don’t throw all that away just to spend all your time hanging out with your new boyfriend or girlfriend or a cool new person you just met.

Be Selfless

IMG_0098Being selfless is an important part of being a good friend. Though you can’t be selfless all the time accommodating your friend’s wishes when you can, will strengthen you relationship. Reciprocate his or her acts of kindness with caring deeds of your own.

  • Do a favour for your friend just out of the goodness of your heart, not because you want something in return.

I’m sure you’re getting the picture. There are many more things I could say about friendships and how to foster secure heartfelt ones as well as how to maintain them. However, this post would become impossibly long if I continued.

heart-63974_150That rare gift

Suffice to say, that our friendships are our lifeblood, so it’s no surprise that the loss of our friends, especially when we know we could have done more to stay in touch, features high as one of our biggest regrets when we depart.

“Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it.”

Anaïs Nin

So, let’s heed the wise words of Anaïs.

Let your friends know how much they mean to you.

Be the best friend you can be 

Stay in touch.

No regrets!

Blessings & Much love

Insightful Angel 

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